Avowals, Assertions and Affirmations... OH MY!

Hey all!

You know with the new year among us, and SO MANY PEOPLE on a "resolution" kick, I figured I'd do a blog about something that is near and dear to my heart and a MUST in my family.  Having three daughters, I wanted to make sure that they KNEW they were beautifully and wonderfully made, and that they were smart and capable of doing anything and everything they put their minds to... The sky is the limit!!

Now, we have bible study here at home (although I wish we would do it more... I avowal, assert and affirm that to be so!!), as well as going to bible study at church and really making sure they have a TRUE understanding of the Lord, the Lord's word, and what the Lord has in store for them. -- However, I wanted to do something that would push their limits just a bit.  I wanted to put something in place that would be at their hand, and something that they'd have to use their free will to do.  So, I decided to start the AAA process. 

AVOWAL, ASSERT & AFFIRM

• Openly admit your want/need
• Confidently assure your success
• Commit to your goal

Now, I make it a point to have them WRITE IT DOWN, and POST IT UP!! They can post it ANYWHERE they see fit (preferably a place that they frequent so they can see their committment and STICK TO IT!).  What does this do, you ask?  Well, it keeps YOU accountable to YOU.  It's normal to seek encouragement from others. It's normal to look at someone else and the success they have, and WISH that was you.  However, to LOOK TO YOURSELF for the encouragement and accountability to succeed is something many people don't do.

THE THREE MUSTS

• WRITE IT DOWN
• POST IT UP
• STICK TO IT

How awesome is it to be accountable to self?? How amazing is it to know that if you don't stick to your goal, you are failing yourself? Who wants to fail themselves? Who wants to feel unworthy to self? We all know that in order to succeed in ever part of life, we MUST love ourselves immensely... Not partly, not sometimes... ALL THE TIME and GREATLY!! Without love for ourselves, how can we EXPECT others to give us the respect we deserve in this life?

The children are skeptical, but I am having them stick with it!! Every Wednesday, we will get together and have a meeting about our progress and possible failures in this AAA process... However, I know it will work. It will work in every facet of their lives. Their grades will be  better, their attitudes will be better (at times), and they will carry themselves with a better sense of respect and accomplishement! --  I'm not only the AAA President, I'm also a client!! There is so many things I want from business to personal, and I AAA it to be so.  I journal it up, put it up on my dry erase board, put it under my pillow (YES, MY PILLOW), I even make VIDEOS to myself with my AAA's on it!!

Accountability to self.  Such an important part of our existence!!

I suggest you all start the AAA process, if you haven't already! Make an oath to self and follow through on it! With you being CONFIDENT about your outcome in your AAA's, you will push yourself to the limit to succeed at your goal, and with your succession comes a better respect for self.

Me with my babies!!! <3

I'll keep you all posted on the success of it!!

Thanks!

Keep watching,

Char~

Testimonial from one of my readers!! :)

Hey all!

I just wanted to share this amazing testimonial with you all!! It's nice to know that my little mixture is working and helping folks on their journey to natural freedom and growth!! :)

Testimonial:

Hey Char! I have been using your conditioner crack for the last few months on babygirl's hair. My husband was watching me condition her hair tonight and commented on the length and how manageable it is. I now have a system that works. I wash weekly. Use a detangler. Saturate with Extra Virgin Olive Oil, conditioner and protein. I then wrap her hair with a cap and towel for 20 mins. Massage and style. No grease. On dry days, I use your conditioner crack mixture posted on your blog. I looove it. Well, I'm about to braid it and bead for her birthday next week. Thanks for all the tips. It works. :))))))))

Natesha Kindred-Johnson

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Natesha -- I just want to thank you for trusting my mixture on your daughter!! I'm so very glad that you are seeing results and even more ecstatic that you have a method that works for you!! :) Your daughter is absolutely beautiful, and the condition of her hair is lovely!! Much love, ma!!

Blessings!!

Keep Watching,

Char~

Flat Ironing Natural Hair (My Way)

Hey all! I'm back and ready to get back to blogging.  Life sometimes comes at you like a Mack Truck and things need to be put on hold... Sadly, my blog has suffered because of it... BUT, I'm back and praying to be more routine with my postings! :)

Now, Flat Ironing Natural Hair (My Way)

I decided to flat iron my hair a while back.  A lot of naturalistas believe that flat ironing natural hair is damaging to your hair.  If you protect your tresses before and after the flat ironing, you WILL be fine!

When flat ironing my hair, I take what I consider to be the 'necessary' precautions in order to protect my tresses... AND... I only flat iron my hair once a year (as a length check!!)

I started by deep conditioning my hair with Pantene Medium-Thick Hair Solutions -- Treatment: Intensive Restoration Treatment.  Although the container says to keep it on your hair for FIVE minutes, I kept it on mine for 35 minutes. I also put it in a deep condtioning cap and let it really sweat under there!



Deep Conditioning "shower cap" -- Sold @ my local beauty supply.

 I then got into the shower, and washed out the Pantene and co-washed my hair with Tresemme.  I made sure to keep the Tresemme on my hair for about FIVE minutes while in the shower to finger comb though my hair, in order to get out all of the tangles. I then rinsed that out and lightly squeezed my hair with the towel... I didn't rub it hard with the towel...Just a NICE, LIGHT squeeze to get any excess water out.

Once my 'hair squeeze' was complete, I put a light amount of Tresemme, Extra Virgin Olive Oil (EVOO), Oil Sheen (Afro Sheen) on my hair.  This was done so that my hair would be coated before I put the blow dryer to it! -- NOW COMES THE BLOW DRYING!! --

I blew my hair ALMOST completely dry with the blow dryer.  I kept it a little damp, since the flat iron would be drying it as well.  That's a LOT of heat for one 'hair transaction' as I like to call it... So, I make provisions where needed, for my hair.


The front has been blown 'almost' dry, the back is waiting patiently.

 Now, it's time for the flat iron job.  I parted my hair from the back first, in order to straighten it back there first, and then I moved up. I made sure to go over it with the flat iron twice on each section, and then move on.

The Flat Ironing Process!! Yep, it's hard work!! :)

Finally complete! Here is the finished product:



Front View



Right Side View

Left Side View

Back View

This entire process took about (5) hours from beginning to end.  My hair was so shiny and soft and flowing. The shine you see in pictures is the shine you would see in person.  Truly gorgeous.  No breakage, no weakening of my hair follicle.  Just beautiful, strong, flat ironed hair! The look lasted for about (3) weeks.

All made up and ready to go! :)

To maintain this style, I took a VERY soft bristle brush (baby soft), brushed my hair over to the side and around itself (the way I wanted it to fall and swing), and wrapped it up with my satin scarf.  I then put a pillow case around it... Yes, I know it may look silly, but I'm okay with it, and my husband doesn't mind!! :) -- So, it all works out!!

I hope my explanation was a good one, folks!! If you have any questions, PLEASE don't hesitate to ask!! Blessings, folks!

Keep watching,

Char~